The Biggest Mystery: Love

This may be a post-valentines day thought or maybe just frustrations of my life but either way love is a reoccurring theme everywhere and it seems to run our lives. It’s connected to everything we do and something has changed in our generation and it doesn’t have the worth it used to. People are so quick to say the phrase “I love you” and even quicker to jump into a sexual relationship. What has changed with us? Why do people use the world love with so little emotion so often and why don’t people show this so called love in their actions? Does it go back to the debate about technology and how we’re becoming lazy? It’s very possible. People can just text each other “meaningful” words or send it in a facebook message rather than face to face. If you don’t look into someone’s eyes when you’re telling them how you feel I don’t think there’s really any worth in that. Love is the strongest element of… everything, basically. It shouldn’t be so everyday and typical; there should be a lot of thought put into the concept of love.
Also, I believe love without sex is possible and I’ve seen situations more than a few times where there’s sex without love. So along with love losing it’s worth sex has, even more so. It seems to me that it’s getting out of hand and should be a bigger deal than it is to a lot of people.
I’m reading Queen City Jazz and The Shakers aren’t allowed to have sex because they want everyone to be equal. That concept is what initially triggered all of my thoughts about sex and it’s worth. People make it to be such a great thing but it causes so many problems because it’s taken for granted so often. It does cause inequality between everyone. Certain people are thought of as “better” because they’re hotter and more sexually appealing. Not everyone has the same taste but the majority of people would want to be with a model rather than an “average” office worker and that puts us at different levels.
I feel like this was all on the same topic but a lot of different angles that got brought together and don’t really flow but with the sexual themes and idea of love in basically all of the books we’ve read.

Double Standard?

I was thinking a lot about the discussion in class about the "gross" factor of TTTE and the difference between male and female nudity as well as the sexual disturbance versus emotional disturbance.

I don't really understand why female nudity seems to be so much more acceptable than male nudity. Male nudity seems to be more shocking and disturbing to a majority of people and I think it may just be because we aren't used to it. I don't know the initial reason it started but female nudity has been shown much more and it has slowly become acceptable, in a sense. Also, it's not a normal type of scenario. The book is really hard to understand and when you don't really know what's going on but you read a sentence that talks about someone coming out of nowhere and masturbating and the smell of KY it's a little bit of a set back. I don't really find TTTE disturbing or gross but I think that it's more of a shocking unfamiliar element that throws me off.

Also, something that stuck with me was why don't we get pissed off at things that mess with our emotional side? It seems to me that going into a movie or book knowing that it's a romance or drama or whatever our choice is gives us a sense of control. Emotions are a tricky thing and we can't control the way we feel often times, things upset us that we don't want to or we care about people we shouldn't. If we go into a movie aware of the fact that it's going to me dramatic and probably make us cry, we know that we made the choice to go through that instead of just being pulled around by our lives.